When you get married or enter into another type of serious relationship the decisions you make about yourself will not also affect another person. Being independent is great and standing your ground and not always giving into your partner is a sign of that independence. I’m all for self determination, but when your decisions affect someone else some compromise is called for.
Discussing these things with your partner before diving in (or cutting loose, or going crazy, or whatever it is you’re about to do) doesn’t make you weak and co-dependent; it makes you a smart, considerate person who is concerned about the health of their relationship, rather than being completely self-serving.
So in the interest of helping your smarts along, here are six key things you should definitely talk to your sweetie about before diving in;
Birth control
Yes, it’s your body, but before you make a decision that will affect your ability to conceive, you should definitely discuss it with your partner. Whether it’s starting or stopping contraception or choosing a more permanent solution like tubal ligation, your partner will has a vested interest that you need to respect.
Throwing out leftovers
Why anyone would want to eat three days old Chinese takeout is a mystery, but apparently some do. Guaranteed that the minute you throw it out, they’ll want it. The moral here; if it’s not yours ask the owner before throwing it in the garbage.
Buying big ticket items
Even if you’re stocked like a Rockefeller, it’s usually a good bet to run it by your significant other before making any big buys (cars, houses, boats, etc).
Adding to the family
As tempting as that puppy with the heart breaking little face may be (I know, so cute!), resist the temptation. Just because you’re volunteering at a refugee camp while your sweetie is filming a movie and there’s an orphan there that melts your heart, it’s just not okay to bring home new family members without getting your partner’s blessing first.
Getting a tattoo
Anywhere on your body that has their name in it. That’s all.
Erasing the Tivo
Just because you think he or she watched the most recent Curb Your Enthusiasm doesn’t mean they actually have. This is a fast track to World War III, my friends.
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